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What I came to see was that my suffering wasn’t a result of not having control

“Before I woke up to reality, I had a symbol for all my frustration: my children’s socks. Every morning they would be on the floor, and every morning I would think, “My children should pick up their socks.” It was my religion. You could say my world was accelerating out of control in my mind; there were socks everywhere. And I would be filled with rage and depression because I believed these socks didn’t belong on the floor even though, morning after morning, that’s where they were. I believed it was my children’s job to pick them up even though, morning after morning, they didn’t.

I use the image of children and socks, but you might find that for you, the same thoughts apply to the environment, politics or money. We think these things should be different than they are, and we suffer because we believe our thoughts. At 43, after 10 years of deep depression and despair, my real life began.

What I came to see was that my suffering wasn’t a result of not having control; it was a result of arguing with reality. I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered; when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment. That joy is in everyone, always.

When you question your mind for the love of truth, your life always becomes happier and kinder. Inquiry helps the suffering mind move out of its arguments with reality. It helps us move into alignment with constant change. After all, the change is happening anyway, whether we like it or not. Everything changes. But when we’re attached to our thoughts about how that change should look, we feel uncomfortable when we realize we’re not in control. Through inquiry, we enter the area where we do have control: our thinking. We question our thoughts about the ways in which the world seems to have gone crazy, for example. And we come to see that the craziness was never in the world, but in us.

When we understand our thinking, we understand the world, and we come to love it. In that, there’s peace.

Who would I be without the thought that the world needs improving? Happy where I am right now: the woman sitting on a chair in the sunlight. Pretty simple. The apparent craziness of the world, like everything else, is a gift we can use to set our minds free. Any stressful thought you have about the planet, for example, or about life and death, shows you where you’re stuck, where your energy is being exhausted as a result of not fully meeting life as it is, without conditions. You can’t free yourself by finding a so-called “enlightened” state outside your own mind. When you question what you believe, you eventually come to see you’re the enlightenment you’ve been seeking.

Until you can love what is–everything, including the apparent violence and craziness–you’re separate from the world, and you’ll see it as dangerous and frightening. I invite everyone to put these fearful thoughts on paper, question them, and set themselves free. When the mind is not at war with itself, there’s no separation in it. I’m 65 years old and unlimited. I’m no longer interested in what my children do with their socks.”

Quoted from a book by Byron Katie: A thousands names for joy

Planetary Transit Time Chart

Image by Cathy Kinnaird

Source: Channels by Type 4 – Understanding the Transit Program

Except that we don’t use the 29.5 days synodic cycle in Human Design, but the 27.3 days sidereal cycle.
See calculations here: Lunar Cycle Calculations

The Genetic Hierarchy

In the image above, you can see the three other Types that we have looked at arranged in a triangular structure, with the Reflector in the middle. In terms of the genetic hierarchy, the Reflector has a unique view and role. The Manifestor, Generator and Projector are all solar Types, which means that they operate in a generalised imprinting program rooted in the neutrino stream coming from the sun. The Reflector is the only Type that can be described as ‘lunar’ since it operates in an imprinting program that is reflected through the movement of the moon as it passes through the solar neutrino stream.

ROLE IN HISTORY
In history, the Reflectors, like Projectors have been generally ignored, since the energy Types have ruled throughout our history. The future lies in a new direction however, with the unfolding of the natural genetic hierarchy. The Reflector’s place in this new order will be as an embodiment of the ultimate form of social and global justice, since their potential is to reflect everything around them with perfect equanimity.

GIFT AND HANDICAP
Because Reflectors have no fixed definition in their design, there can be a quick assumption that they are somehow more vulnerable than the other three Types. This is not strictly true. We have already seen that the undefined centres are not necessarily a handicap if they are operating correctly. In fact, we have shown throughout this manual that it is the undefined centres that can be the deepest windows on wisdom. It is true that Reflectors are indeed vulnerable, but if they know their design clearly, they are absolutely protected from identifying with anything at all. Because the Reflector’s chemistry magnifies everything and everyone, they have the potential to see everything that is really happening in a way that no one else can. They are a key to a global consciousness, because they participate through their openness in filtering the general consciousness field.

The role of the Reflector is to be one with the totality. They are extremely important to us because their unique perspective is much closer to our future emerging consciousness than for example, the perspective of a Manifestor, which is deeply selfish in comparison.

Their greatest ability is to read others. Added to this, Reflectors have a deep kinship to the moon, and thus they have an opportunity for a mystical life that most of us cannot know.

They can know a deep connection to a celestial body in an ongoing and profound way. In a certain sense, Reflectors represent the moon on earth.

The greatest handicap of a Reflector is their greatest gift; their openness and vulnerability. If they do not know how they function, and if they identify with what they are mirroring, they will easily get lost and confused. Because of their impressionability, they can become very dependent on those around them and therefore they have to be very careful about who they allow into the inner circle of their lives. Reflectors come into the world full of wonder, but so often, having met the not-self of the world, they suffer from a deep disappointment.” – Richard Rudd, Living Your Design – A New Manual for Awakening (2004)

Lower the bar

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“If no one in your life thinks you’re failing to live up to your full potential, then you’ve got work to do.

Turn it down a notch
The funny but true wisdom in this helpful little book demonstrates how striving for mediocrity is the key to happiness at work, at home, in love, in your diet and exercise – even while stuck in traffic. Embrace the many fabulous pleasures of underachievement with these easy strategies and tips for living life to the least and loving it. There don’t you feel better already?

Good enough is good enough” – Ray Bennett, M.D.

Based on the “Generator Transcript”

https://humandesignamerica.com/books/general-education

“Surrender: Your Mind Must Be An Ally
It’s very important to understand something as a Generator: Generators were given this gift of surrendering. Let me explain to you how surrender works for a Generator. A Generator comes to Human Design and they’re told that they make decisions in response. So they begin this process of making decisions in response, and they begin this process by doing the mental work first.

If you do not seduce your mind as a Generator, you will never have a real opportunity to be yourself. Your mind must become your ally. The way in which you make your mind an ally is that when you begin your Generator process, you begin by a “Question and Response Episode.”

The Mind Will Fight Your Surrender
See, Generators are here to know themselves. You’re here to know yourself so you above everybody else is here to know the power of your Not-Self because it’s your greatest enemy! In recognizing the power of that Not-Self you cannot expect your mind – who does not work for you – to work for you!

You cannot expect that you’re going to be able to teach your mind, to be able to compensate for your Not-Self.

Your Mind Is Not on Your Side
It all comes back to your own process. It comes back to you remembering every moment of every day that your mind is not on your side. It’s going to tell you whatever it tells you. It has to learn. You have to teach it. You have to fool it. You have to get it to a point that it surrenders to you being your own Authority, claiming what’s rightfully yours.

Your Sacral Center is here to claim what’s rightfully yours – your Authority. I wait for awake 59s to change the way in which we bond, so that we can bond with clarity, so that we can bond with those that are correct for us to bond with.” – Ra Uru Hu

Parent or Friend

“The neglect and mistreatment that is part and parcel of poorly structured or even entirely absent disciplinary approaches can be deliberate—motivated by explicit, conscious (if misguided) parental motives. But more often than not, modern parents are simply paralyzed by the fear that they will no longer be liked or even loved by their children if they chastise them for any reason. They want their children’s friendship above all, and are willing to sacrifice respect to get it. This is not good. A child will have many friends, but only two parents—if that—and parents are more, not less, than friends. Friends have very limited authority to correct. Every parent therefore needs to learn to tolerate the momentary anger or even hatred directed towards them by their children, after necessary corrective action has been taken, as the capacity of children to perceive or care about long-term consequences is very limited. Parents are the arbiters of society. They teach children how to behave so that other people will be able to interact meaningfully and productively with them.

It is an act of responsibility to discipline a child. It is not anger at misbehavior. It is not revenge for a misdeed. It is instead a careful combination of mercy and long-term judgment. Proper discipline requires effort—indeed, is virtually synonymous with effort. It is difficult to pay careful attention to children. It is difficult to figure out what is wrong and what is right and why. It is difficult to formulate just and compassionate strategies of discipline, and to negotiate their application with others deeply involved in a child’s care. Because of this combination of responsibility and difficulty, any suggestion that all constraints placed on children are damaging can be perversely welcome. Such a notion, once accepted, allows adults who should know better to abandon their duty to serve as agents of enculturation and pretend that doing so is good for children. It’s a deep and pernicious act of self-deception. It’s lazy, cruel and inexcusable. And our proclivity to rationalize does not end there.

We assume that rules will irremediably inhibit what would otherwise be the boundless and intrinsic creativity of our children, even though the scientific literature clearly indicates, first, that creativity beyond the trivial is shockingly rare96 and, second, that strict limitations facilitate rather than inhibit creative achievement. Belief in the purely destructive element of rules and structure is frequently conjoined with the idea that children will make good choices about when to sleep and what to eat, if their perfect natures are merely allowed to manifest themselves. These are equally ungrounded assumptions. Children are perfectly capable of attempting to subsist on hot dogs, chicken fingers and Froot Loops if doing so will attract attention, provide power, or shield them from trying anything new. Instead of going to bed wisely and peacefully, children will fight night-time unconsciousness until they are staggered by fatigue. They are also perfectly willing to provoke adults, while exploring the complex contours of the social environment, just like juvenile chimps harassing the adults in their troupes. Observing the consequences of teasing and taunting enables chimp and child alike to discover the limits of what might otherwise be a too-unstructured and terrifying freedom. Such limits, when discovered, provide security, even if their detection causes momentary disappointment or frustration.
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De lakmoesproef

“De lakmoesproef voor een goed functionerende multicultuur is de geloofsvrijheid. Multiculturalisme veronderstelt multireligiositeit, waarbij de vrijheid van religie automatisch en onvermijdelijk ook de vrijheid van geloofsafval impliceert. Geen waarlijke vrijheid van religie zonder de vrijheid níét te geloven.

PvdA’er hoogleraar Jos de Beus sprak over dit aspect van geloofsvrijheid essentiële woorden: ‘Ik wil één simpel punt maken: iedereen in Nederland moet kunnen geloven wat hij wil, en iedereen die wil stoppen moet dat vrij en veilig kunnen doen. Ik vind dat geen speeltje in handen van neoconservatieven.’ Bij deze basale observatie beginnen in dit land spijtig genoeg de problemen. Lang niet iedereen van islamitische achtergrond kan ‘vrij en veilig’ in het openbaar afstand nemen van zijn geloof.

Dit verhaal gaat niet over de achtergronden en motieven van de tirannieke bedreigers van afvallige moslims; het gaat over de opmerkelijke alliantie tussen deze bedreigers en een voorhoede van autochtone lelieblanke opiniemakers en publicisten. Het is verbazingwekkend, maar die alliantie bestaat. Zeg in dit land iets over de ‘ongelofelijke wreedheid’ van het Opperwezen genaamd de God van het Oude Testament en je oogst bij deze elite bewondering en lof. Noem in dit land Mohammed naar hedendaagse westerse maatstaven ‘een perverse man’, en een deel van diezelfde elite zegt dat je ‘doodeng’ bent en dat je het aan jezelf hebt te danken dat je de rest van je leven de strengst denkbare persoonsbeveiliging moet accepteren.

Nederlanders met een moslimachtergrond die, gesteld dat zij hun afvalligheid publiek maken, hopen op morele steun van de Nederlandse culturele elite, maken hardhandig kennis met de dubbele standaard die deze elite toepast op critici van christendom en critici van de islam. Een aanzienlijk deel van deze elite ziet voor de afvallige moslim het liefst een soort status aparte, waar minder vrijheden gelden dan voor degenen die van christen in atheïst zijn veranderd. De atheïst die de spot drijft met vermeende onzinnigheden in de Bijbel draagt bij aan onze zo gekoesterde pluriformiteit. De ex-moslim die de spot drijft met vermeende onzinnigheden in de Koran gooit een lont in een kruitvat. Vanuit die zienswijze worden er officieus maar dwingend aparte gedragsregels voor de ex-moslim opgesteld. Die apartheid is onder ons.” Joost Zwagerman – Hitler in de polder & Vrij van God

Channels by Type 1 – Introduction and Creative Channels

This book is a transcript of The Channels Course taught by Ra Uru Hu in Taos, New Mexico April 8-19, 1999, and is the most extensive work on this topic.
Including over 40 hours of lectures on all the channels in a Human Design chart, Ra also gives an in-depth view of how each channel adds to the overall nature of the circuit of which it is part. He discusses at length what quality each channel demonstrates about the entire circuit.

In reality, there’s only one thing going on.

“There’s only one game being played in life, and these people have arrayed their mental and emotional forces expertly so as to convince themselves that they’re on the field in the thick of it while actually standing in line at the snackbar. The American dream of freedom and abundance is just a child’s rendering of true freedom and abundance, and serves only to convince people who haven’t gone anywhere that they’ve already arrived.” -Jed McKenna, Spiritually Incorrect Enlightenment

The Process of Deconditioning

“Even worse than misleading others is misleading yourself. You have learned a lot of very interesting information, but it is all useless if you don’t live your design. Live your design. Live your design. It can’t be said enough.

So here it is another way: When you begin this process there is a danger that you may work in the knowledge and not in yourself. Remember that you really have to work on yourself and your own process. Not “work on yourself” like you are something to be improved, but like you are somebody to be discovered: somebody perfect just the way you are. The work is in getting out of your own way. So don’t forget how important it is to live the experiment of being you through your strategy and authority. Otherwise none of what you learned in this course is important because it simply becomes window dressing for a mannequin. Use yourself as the example of how this all works. That is when it comes alive.

Understanding mechanics is not the same as being awake. It is the difference between an armchair revolutionary and a true revolutionary. Take this information into your own body just as much as you share it with others. Otherwise people will see that you don’t embody what you teach and they will not only ignore you but they will also think the knowledge is false.

It is so easy to see in Human Design how life is a duality. You have inside yourself the best of your design and the worst. The best is actually the same as the worst since there is no morality here. The only difference is whether you are enjoying the ride. And the only way to enjoy the ride is to live your design and honor you authority. If you don’t do that then you will be the same person, but you won’t like yourself at all.

So as you explore the charts of your friends and family be sure to explore your own process just as much. Watch yourself over the next three and a half years and see how the knowledge of this course changes you. See how it deepens you own self awareness, and see how the deeper it becomes you the better you are at sharing it.” – Kip Winsett, Rave ABC, Humandesign.com

Reflector

“If you have a Reflector Life Chart, you are one of the most receptive people alive. Through your receptivity you have the potential to be the wisest of the wise, experiencing your life as a reflection of your environment and those around you. You are just like a mirror, reflecting other people’s characteristics back to them, giving them a perfectly clear viewing of themselves, often it might seem for the first time. Being so open, receptive, and available also brings with it an enormous vulnerability, especially if you have been told to behave like everyone around you. Reflectors make up less than 1 percent of the world’s population, so let’s be clear that you have committed to living a very different life.

You often sense things in your environment that others miss. You may even absorb other people’s thoughts, feelings, motivations, wants, manifestations, and other things, and you can easily become overwhelmed by the internal sensations of others, which become your own if you are not careful. Finding time to be alone on a daily basis will help you to remain clear and uninfluenced by other people, and taking time to actively release anyone or anything that appears overwhelming is essential.

As one of the most sensitive people on the planet, you have probably been misunderstood all your life as you naturally go about reflecting the world back to itself. Much as everyone would like to have your wise input on their lives, it is important that you set boundaries. These boundaries will certainly involve your living situation, and most probably any work environment, too. Where possible, you need to have your own room, preferably your own area of a house, and not live in an apartment complex or in close range of other people’s energetic influences.

When you give yourself time every day to reflect on your experiences, you will find your day is filled with gems of meaning and truth. These gems become a storehouse of wisdom that can be passed into the world and the lives of anyone who asks. This is a lifetime to appreciate great patience and to realize. that you have an inner agreement with life to trust whatever is offered. This is not to say that you are powerless, but to acknowledge the vulnerability of a rose flower, which is easily crushed if it is not guarded, but when cherished, nurtured, and protected holds within its nature an indescribable beauty.” -Chetan Parkyn & Carola Eastwood, the Book of Destinies

SHIVOHAM SHIVOHAM

ISBN: 978-8192461274

“Who am i? What am i? What is the outline of my beingness? Spread in all direction, what is this manifested world? From the so called birth till the so called death, what is all this happening? Apart from these questions, who meditates? … And on what? How and why do thoughts, feelings, desires, lust, wishes etc. arise and make one a slave of them? Why the tendencies like fear, greed, sex, anger, attachment, jealousy and envy, do not stop chasing the seeker in spite of all his efforts? In search of answers to such question, these talks bring one to the peak of the conclusion, where remains only one’s beingness, pure existence; where all the otherness disappears and the duality comes to an end… and remains only and only subjectivity. As this subjectivity becomes obvious and intense by becoming one with that, the seeker spontaneously becomes ecstatic and starts swaying, dancing and singing: where my ecstasy has brought me, where there is nothing, other than me.” Shivoham shivoham – Whosoever

Boekpromotor Büch verbond op bevlogen wijze hoge en lage cultuur

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Büchs dodo-botje

“Het zijn de buitenbeentjes, die het leven, de kunst, de journalistiek en de literatuur van kleur en  reuring voorzien. Zoals Özkan Akyol, Midas Dekkers, Arthur van Amerongen, A.H.J. Dautzenberg, wijlen Theo van Gogh en Boudewijn Büch. Die laatste – Boud voor intimi – strikte ik in de jaren tachtig als medewerker voor het boekenprogramma van de VPRO-radio, wat tot afkeuring leidde bij de culturele elite en veel zich achter een superioriteitscomplex verschuilende collega’s. Want dat geldt voor vrijwel alle dwarsliggers met excentrieke kantjes, ze trekken in het land waar egalitarisme en platvloersheid de volksaard kenmerken (wie verbeeld  je je wel dat je bent ?), al snel controverse en afgunst aan.

De vraag ‘wie verbeeld je je wel dat je bent ?’ is in het bijzonder van toepassing op schrijver, TV-presentator, poëet en fenomeen Boudewijn Büch omdat hij als geen ander van zijn leven fictie maakte. De verbeelding won het in zijn geval ruimschoots van de feiten, want die waren te banaal om als bouwstenen te dienen voor de kathedraal opgebouwd uit verzinsels, uitvergrote ervaringen, leugens en bedrog waarmee hij iedereen – geliefden, vrienden, collega’s en het grote publiek – grandioos in de maling nam.” – Paul Aalbers

Lees meer: http://cult.tpo.nl/

Relationship therapy

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HOW TO FUCK A WOMAN’S BRAINS OUT
By ThornDaddy, forward by Dollie Llama

ThornDaddy from the “Submission and Coffee” podcast teaches you how to pet her pretties, part her petals, and nail her to the center of the earth with your cock until she squirts stars and secrets onto the majesty of your bed.

HOW TO FUCK A WOMAN’S BRAINS OUT is not a guide on how to “find em’ feel em’ fuck em’ and forget ’em.” It’s not a manual on how to “bag weak women with pickup lines and mind tricks,”

HOW TO FUCK A WOMAN’S BRAINS OUT is a stunning BDSM resource and manifesto on finding the perfect willing sex slave (or two), keeping her in your life, and loving the hell out of her ~ mind, body and soul.

Includes Appendix:
“Interviews With Seven Kinky Women About What They Want and Need”

“This man owns me; heart, mind, soul and pussy.” -ThornDaddy’s wife, Dollie Llama (author, Diary of an S&M Romance)

“The most amazing mind-shattering sex I’ve ever experienced is with ThornDaddy and Dollie Llama, and this little kitty just can’t stop purring.” -“the pet” (ThornDaddy and Dollie Llama’s girlfriend)

“I had to move. There was so much loud sex, I couldn’t think.” -Bill M. (ThornDaddy’s downstairs neighbor, January 1999 to April 1999)

A crucial read for all men and women interested in kinky love.

eBook ISBN: 978-0-97053-928-1 Paperback book: ISBN 978-0-97053-922-9

Online copy here: https://archive.org/details/HowToFuckAWomansBrainOut

This post taken out of context here: MoonBlog 9.3