It seems to me, reading the comments and the premise of the question, it kinda means, that abuse makes you the victim, period.

As people point towards the not-self of either you, or of the abuser. (which implicates wrong doing !!)

And then the shallowness of claiming the not-self is only in the openness. While also reciting this activation or that one, so which one is it?

Which (as so very often) completely ignores duality.

I’ve been abused in several ways and sometimes still meet it, mostly emotional/psychological, and yes I do like to point at my Design Nodes (36 and 6) but…

Duality !

This notion to be able to see it on a map, or on a tiny little permutation of an activation (it is because of my base 3 in tone 4 of color 3 in line 4 of gate so and so, or because I do NOT have this or that activation to protect me bla!), is mind boggling to me.