We are looking at two points of view here

a universal one and a personal one. On one side are the spiritual traditions which speak of a divine, universal life of freedom and enlightenment; on the other side is the rest of humanity who wants a certain kind of life—to be married, find satisfying work, have sex and to fulfill myriad other desires and wishes. Why can’t we do both? Why can’t we have this personal life and still be free? When you look at your deepest longing, isn’t that what you want? You want a normal life, and still to be happy and free; not just free on a mountain retreat, but free in your normal life.
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