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No Kissing

“I pursued Lena for four years to no effect. I fixed her computer, I ate onion rings because she liked them, I pulled out my funniest remarks, I underplayed how much I wanted her. Nothing worked.

Then she and I had a chance to spend a weekend together. She made it clear that no form of sexual contact was okay. I wasn’t allowed to hold her hand, to hug her, to give her a kiss on the cheek—nothing. Every time the urge to show affection arose, I had to not act. Instead, I noticed my thoughts. And this is what I saw: that I used all those techniques to make women like me. All that weekend, instead of feeling like I was repressing myself, I noticed that those simple physical actions actually dissipated the loving, fun, sexy sensations I was feeling. Without the usual outlet, those feelings just kept running through my body. At the end of this totally platonic weekend, I had never been more blissed out and full of love!

The key moment when I stopped seeking her love was, to say the least, a huge relief. My whole body relaxed. I simply couldn’t make myself believe that I needed a relationship with her, or with anyone else, to be happy. I stopped feeling pulled outside myself, I stopped reaching for happiness where it didn’t and couldn’t exist. I just stopped doing what I had been doing my whole life. As a result, I felt stable and honest and complete for the first time.

I stopped seeking this woman’s love, and I apologized for all the ways I tried to get her to agree with my thought that we should be a couple. I genuinely—and I was shocked by this—had no desire to be with her in a committed relationship, and I felt content with the fact that I loved a woman who didn’t want to be with me that way. Well, the great ironic punch line to the story is that the moment I stopped seeking her love and approval, when I could no longer find a reason to be with her (or anyone else, for that matter), she looked at me and thought, “The freedom that I’ve always wanted—I can find it with Steven. Oh, and he’s pretty cuter And she leaned over and kissed me.

Now, four years later, we’ve been married for a year. And our actual relationship is much better than the one was imagining for all those years.”

Source: I Need Your Love—Is That True? by Byron Katie

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I remember thinking

-Mark: “I remember thinking oh I should say something but what I actually ended up doing was being like nah it’ll be fine it’ll work itself out SPO done that too many times right and so we sweep we sweep it under the carpet and eventually you trip on the pile that’s under the carpet and what I realized through that was like my avoidance of conflict was not altruistic it was not I thought it was like oh I’m doing a good thing

now really unconsciously what I’m doing is avoiding conflict because conflict can lead to a fracturing attachment a fracturing connection but what it’s present in as is like oh I’m going to avoid these they can’t handle the truth they’re too reactive they won’t be able to hear this that’s not love first off if you are not sharing what you truly feel someone doesn’t get to truly know you so you never really get fully known in your relationships and then you feel like you don’t feel fully loved but you haven’t actually brought the full version of yourself there

which is really because we’re afraid of being rejected but what happens in the a fear of bringing our full selves to the relationship and thereby not doing it for fear of rejection is we live in the very embodiment of rejection and so my prayer for everybody is to say lay Truth at the table because if you lay Truth at the table the system starts to orient around truth now most of us develop our adaptive strategies things like being really intuitive and having being great very gregarious being great at sales

these are all superpowers when they’re harnessed but before that they’re manipulation and that sounds like a a criticism or a negative word but the behavior itself needs to be called out for what it is it’s it’s a shadow behavior and it’s operating from a place of fear and when you don’t tell someone the truth because you don’t think they can handle it one you get to live the story two you also get to blame them for not having the capacity for being able to hold what you want to share and three they never get to become the person who can hold it

so we end up recreating our very Rel the very relational Dynamics we’re trying to avoid and I’d say on top of all this is that we are not experiencing love in those circumstances and we’re not experiencing Freedom you know I think about how often we pursue everything we love when we leave relationships we all of a sudden pursue our dreams and I’m like why wouldn’t we actually make the relationship the place that truth gets honored and if we Place truth ahead of staying together

now at least now we’re really cooking because that’s actually the way that relationships truly Thrive is that they say I’m going to tell you the truth and I’m not going to protect you from your feelings because I’m sure that’s probably happened in your life I trust that you can hold this and there’s a deeper bond that gets created from that because look at our society this is a micro and a meta we’re placing feelings ahead of reality we’re placing feelings ahead of Truth and I can tell you right now that that is that’s just a giant trauma response that’s masquerading as altruism and it’s bulshit”

-Adam: “and it’s not sustainable and in fact many of us grew up in well many of us grew up in families that were not sustainable and we learn skills in an unsustainable system which we then carry out into the world so the only thing we know how to build is unsustainable relationships”

-Andrey: “and we actually talked about this extensively throughout many of our videos and many of our podcast interviews and there’s a found found issue here and and foundational issue is really trust mixed with control right I do not trust you to be able to process this and I choose to control the narrative to control the relationship in a way that makes me feel safe in a way that makes me feel safe Myself by controlling your reaction upon me”

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MoonBlog 33.6 Disassociation

“They [Zeno & Chaitanyo] operate with human design before Ra’s own contribution to hd.”

Everyone knows HD only through Ra, Zeno and Chaitanyo included. However they claim or market their more pure/original version, it never really is.
These modes to do and wait, where did they originate from, is also unknown.

Something I noticed (With Z&C but also others) is, however you learn HD now, is how you will stick to it. But whenever anything new is discovered or more deeply elaborated on (like Variables came to the forefront much much later) many people simply ignore the new information. It seems the human psyche is having a blockage there. En masse, across humanity as a whole.

But then the new/deeper stuff gets (ego)sold as if it was Ra being wrong or false. And telling/selling Ra being wrong or false, (ego)sells so much better than a simple deepening or elaboration does. People like drama and opposition more, than anything/everything else.

The Black Book is older than Zeno meeting/training HD.
From the Book of Letters (white book) is a good second book when it comes to ‘old school HD’.

Reading ‘Ra’s Work 2020’ and ‘Ra’s Agenda 2016’ gives an overview of the history of HD being taught. Those 2 overviews are made by Jan van den Berg.
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Builty TonexOneController

links:
https://github.com/Builty/TonexOneController
https://www.waveshare.com/esp32-s3-touch-lcd-1.69.htm
https://makerworld.com/en/models/1015745-1-69-oled-for-tonex-case
https://www.tinytronics.nl/en/power/voltage-converters/buck-(step-down)-converters/dc-dc-ajustable-step-down-buck-converter-lm2596-3a
https://www.tinytronics.nl/en/cables-and-connectors/connectors/screw-terminals/dc-jack-female-5.5mm-to-terminal-block
https://www.tinytronics.nl/en/cables-and-connectors/connectors/screw-terminals/dc-jack-male-5.5mm-to-terminal-block
https://www.thingiverse.com/thing:4982919

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Breaking in new motorcycle tyres

Your motorcycle or scooter tyres have reached a point where they need to be replaced. Once you’ve fitted your brand new tyres, all you have to do is get on the road. But not just any old way! Your new tyres need a break-in period without which the risk of a fall is possible. How to break in new motorcycle tyres? Read our tips to get you through this phase without any problems.

Why do new tyres need to be broken in?
The manufacture of tyres involves the use of moulds that give them the exact shape defined at the time of their design. When it comes to demoulding, it is necessary to use products that allow the tyre to be removed. As these products tend to leave a thin film of a shiny appearance on the tyre, it is important to take some precautions when riding until this film has completely gone.

What can happen if this break-in phase is not taken into account?
Some people have had this happen to them: after getting on their motorcycles with brand new tyres from the dealer, they quickly picked up speed, turned at too wide an angle and ended up in a horizontal position on the road…

Regardless of the brand of tyres you buy, care should be taken when they are new so that you can use them to their full potential once the break-in period is over.

What you should not do?
We will explain in a moment how to proceed to a smooth break-in. But let’s start with an important recommendation: do not use abrasive products to rub the surface of the tyre in the hope of removing the film more quickly. Doing so could cause irreversible damage to your tyre. There is only one way to successfully break in a tyre and that’s what we explain below.
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The truth about absolutely neutral and linear boosters

“We’ve all been there: playing that perfect song, 16 bars before the solo, in love with the sound, 8 bars before the solo, still in love with that sound, preparing the foot to hit the booster pedal so that everyone can hear you solo with that incredible tone. Your 40 seconds of fame start now! Unfortunately the sound isn’t louder, but rather muddy and undefined, or the top-end is harsh and you’ve lost all the depth in the low frequencies. So what happened? While you’ve landed here, reading this blog entry, others have gone to a forum to write: “My current boost pedal lacks transparency! I need an absolutely clean linear boost, which doesn’t add or suck highs and just increases the volume for my solo!“.

The replies are mostly the same: “Use the ultra linear YXZ!“, “Pedal ZXY is the best clean one!“, “TS9 is the way to go!“, “You need a volume pedal!“ and “I use an equaliser! IMHO the best!“. Believe me – I see these posts all the time and you probably have as well. So, who is right? Nobody? Everyone? Unfortunately there’s no answer to satisfy the poor guy… I think he’s simply asking the wrong question. Ok, ok, ok, … lets sort this out and consider the topic in all its aspects.

There are 3 points: -technical aspects, -signal interaction of the gear used, -hearing and listening habits

“Technical aspects sounds boring!“
Yes, absolutely. We want to make music, right? But what if I told you that if you had an absolutely clean & linear boost, you probably wouldn’t like using it with a valve amp? It isn’t hard to build something like that, but it won’t be the ultimate weapon for every amplifier or for every situation. Depending on your amplifier and the gear you are using, there’d be a high chance the sound would be harsh in the highs or muddy in the low end. Why? This has something to do with the architecture of your valve guitar amp and the behaviour of the valves. Virtually no guitar amps have a linear frequency response and depending on the amplitude of the incoming signal, the amp’s signal is more or less distorted but never linear. So perhaps we should reconsider the term “linear boost“. I’ll give you an example:

“Damaged eggs don’t sound fine!“
Imagine you have a bucket. This is your amplifier. I give you a few eggs, which are your signal. You put the eggs in the bucket, which is now half-full. You put the lid on the bucket. Perfect. You want a louder signal? You want a boost? No problem. I give you a few more eggs and you put them carefully into the bucket. Still fine, no eggs are damaged, although the bucket is full to the brim. The lid only just fits, but you again want more boost. You remove the lid, I give you more eggs and you press the lid onto the bucket so it closes. You can imagine what just happened. The result is that a few eggs are damaged or broken. Your amplifier is distorting, because it can’t process the signal anymore in the way you wanted it to. Imagine you have a high gain amp and it’s already feeding-back. What you actually have is a bucket full of scrambled eggs and now you put more eggs in it. Good luck with that! Do you remember the start of this post? The scenario where you tried to boost the sound of the solo? You had put too many eggs in a bucket which was already full. That’s what happened. The result was damaged eggs. And damaged eggs usually don’t sound good. Which brings me to the next topic: interaction.
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Michelin Road 6

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Increasing Tariffs

“Through the 40-37, we have had what is called free trade. Basically, the globalized economy and the opening up of a world in which there are no tariffs. Since the Second World War it’s the thing that has made it possible, for example, for Asia to be able to rise up.

The fact is most people don’t realize that in 1945, a country like Korea actually had more poverty than a country like Zimbabwe, which is really amazing when you think about it. This whole transformation in the way in which the global economy has operated, the way in which all of these things have been opened up—you can see the pressure right now in the United States.

The Canadians feel this because there is a huge pressure in the United States to buy American cars now. They’ve got this cash for clunkers. The thing that you hear in the background frequency is: ‘Yeah, this is great, but it should only be for American cars.’ You get this closing off.

One of the natural things we’re going to see over the next 18-20 years is more and more countries adding tariffs, bringing protectionism into the way in which they operate. In the end, this hurts everybody. There is always the illusion when you’re in that country that this is the best thing that you do for yourself.

One of the things you’re also going to see is an enormous transformation in the acceptance of immigrants anywhere.” – Ra Uru Hu

Excerpt from You and the Program, recorded on August 11, 2009. Source: https://www.jovianarchive.com/Stories/10243/Increasing_Tariffs

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Are you selling like hot cakes?

“We’re under pressure to evolve to the maximum of what we become before it all changes.” -Richard Beaumont

This is imagined pressure, it is mind (his in particular). Mechanically there is no such pressure, because of duality. If you do not evolve to the maximum of what you can become, live that, so be it. Seeing, seeing, seeing. We are not the driver, we are the passenger.

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Open letter to President Trump

Maniac-in-Chief

“The frustrating part is that I was on board for a reset. Truly. I’ve said it publicly. I’ve written about it in this very feed. I understood the need for a detox. For decades, the U.S. economy played the part of the rich guy at the table — picking up the check for a global order that no longer worked in our favor. We hollowed out our industrial base. We enabled unfair trade imbalances under the illusion of diplomacy. We subsidized demand for cheap imports while outsourcing the hard questions about how our domestic workforce would adapt.

Eventually, that had to stop. It was unsustainable — financially, politically, and morally. We couldn’t keep pretending that a consumption-led economy held together by zero-interest rates and global fragility was a long-term solution. I wanted a rebalancing. I welcomed the idea of a harder, smarter America-first policy that pushed for fair treatment, reciprocal agreements, and a real industrial strategy rooted in technological superiority, national security, and capital formation. That would’ve been leadership.

But that’s not what this is.

What you’ve rolled out isn’t detox — it’s whiplash. This isn’t strategic decoupling. It’s scattershot retaliation dressed up as reform. There’s no roadmap. No operational playbook. No clear articulation of where this ends or what the metrics of success even are. It’s not an attempt to responsibly unwind America’s role as the global shock absorber — it’s a brute-force attempt to disorder the existing system with no viable alternative in place.

You can’t replace a fragile supply chain with chaos and call it resilience. You can’t build American industry by torching the scaffolding that underpins capital flows, labor mobility, and global coordination — especially when the U.S. itself no longer has the domestic capacity to meet its own industrial needs. You talk about bringing jobs home, but the U.S. doesn’t have the labor force, permitting structure, or wage flexibility to stand up full-scale manufacturing at speed. And now — after years of deportation policies and underinvestment in vocational training — you’ve made the labor gap even wider.

Capital isn’t going to rush to fill that void just because you raised tariffs. It’s going to wait. It’s going to sit on the sidelines and preserve optionality. Because right now, no CEO can confidently model a five-year capex plan. No board can greenlight supply chain onshoring when they don’t know whether a tariff rate will double next quarter based on your Twitter account or some arbitrary trade deficit formula.

That’s the issue. This wasn’t rolled out as part of a comprehensive American renewal strategy. It wasn’t coordinated with the Fed. It wasn’t communicated clearly to Treasury. It wasn’t backed by a labor reskilling program or any form of public-private manufacturing incentive beyond empty slogans. It was dropped like a bomb — seemingly designed more to shock than to build.

And in the absence of credible structure, capital is retreating — not realigning.

I was ready to endure the pain of a thoughtful, structured reset. Most long-term investors were. We’ve lived through tightening cycles. We understood that globalization, as it stood, had reached a breaking point. But this isn’t a correction of imbalances. This is a rupture without scaffolding.
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2025 04 06

Playing with audio, video, texts in video and timestamps in description

Fender Player Plus Nashville Telecaster® in Sienna Sunburst through Fender ’68 Custom Vibro Champ® Reverb combo-amp with
Plug and Play Amplification Power Attenuator 22 – 4 Ohm set at -21dB and IK Multimedia ToneX One pedal with Amalgam presets
Recorded with Samsung Galaxy S23 FE

00:00 begin
00:09 ‘clean’ input 1
00:30 ‘clean’ input 2
00:50 Input 2 ToneXOne with Amalgam IBNZ 808 Drive
01:10 Input 2 IBNZ 808 Lead
01:35 Input 1 IBNZ 808 Drive
01:54 Input 1 IBNZ 808 Lead
02:14 Input 1 KLN CENT Drive
02:36 Input 2 KLN CENT Drive

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beroepschrift op afwijzing kwijtschelding

Beste mensen van de RBG,

dit is mijn beroepschrift op Aanslagnummer : xxxxxxxx
Klantnummer : xxxxxx
Contactnummer : xxx xxx xxx

Op 14 Maart 2025 heb ik kwijtschelding aangevraagd, en heb hierbij de factuur van aanschaf van mijn huidige motorfiets toegevoegd.
De waarde van deze motorfiets is € 3.250,00

Nu stelt de Beschikking kwijtschelding “Ik heb uw kwijtscheldingsverzoek afgewezen.” met als reden:
“U bezit een auto of motor met een waarde van meer dan € 3.350,00.”

Ik heb meteen gebeld en de dame aan de lijn meldde, “omdat het merk een BMW is valt ie gelijk af”.

Dit kan uiteraard niet zo zijn. De motor is 20+ jaar oud, heeft 160.000km op de klok, is weliswaar in rijdende staat, maar zeker niet meer waard dan die 3250, anders had de handelaar er wel ook meer voor gevraagd (en stond de motor zeker al 6 maanden te koop).

De ABS moet vervangen worden, de banden zijn op, de vering moet gereviseerd worden en zo nog enkele zaken. Mede hierom ook staat er op de factuur: “Zo meenemen zonder een enkele vorm van garantie.”

Ik vind het ronduit bizar dat er niet naar de bijgevoegde factuur is gekeken, terwijl dat precies het enige geldige bewijsmateriaal van de waarde is. Ik verzoek jullie dan ook dit
a. alsnog te doen, en
b. jullie eigen regels toe te passen in de beoordeling, en niet met ongeschreven regels, zoals ‘door het merk valt ie af’.

Bijgevoegd, opnieuw de factuur.

Baffo

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Promoting lies

too many untruths/lies to count/er, click here and see/read for yourself https://www.mcha.nl/2018/08/03/functional-human-design/

Original Source: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/selenparman/4-the-experiment-documentary-film-about-global-cycles

And then the launch of the trailer, is not (the launch of) the trailer: “this is the promo trailer that I could cut uh with what we had until now uh it’s aiming for the community to be honest so it’s an internal uh trailer the um main trailer before the release of the movie it will be different”

https://youtu.be/zAhAHWXJNkE

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The Kamal Point and the Dark Night of the Soul

“We have been raised to treat life as a problem to solve, a result to obtain. What action do I take next to get what my mind says is most important to do, be, or have? It is a shattering experience to give up the life of the mind’s conditioning. In that shattering, there is no going back to what was, but there can also be a feeling of aloneness and desolation, a sense of emptiness, an inability to see the way forward.

The mind has kept us distracted so we don’t feel alone. It has kept us busy, so we don’t notice the emptiness of its promises. It has kept us on the never-ending search for more, which is focused on the future and what to do next. When we no longer run our lives from this mental drive, it is a shattering of a deeply held illusion that has been projected outward as the way of life.

When disconnected from the homogenized reality that the world has bought into—but we’re not yet firmly grounded in self-observation and the experience of awareness within—it can cause dissonance and a crisis of spirit. Like Neo in The Matrix, the red pill has been taken, and there is no unseeing what has been revealed. And yet, there is no comforting way forward, no god or belief to hang onto, no goal plan to keep us busy and distracted.

It is a kind of dark night of the soul. You know where you have been, and you don’t particularly enjoy where you are at the moment, with its great uncertainty and unknowns. There is no clear way forward.” – Leela Swann-Herbert

Full Blog Post Here

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No, but here’s the joke for instance.

selfie

“When I was still living at home, right, until age 15, and I think I had just turned 15 before I left. I forget now, but anyways, I told my mom I wanted to put soap in my hair. I wanted to put my hair up. You know, I saw the New-Agers and the Punks on TV, and I wanted to do something similar.

She said “no, and you can’t, and you shouldn’t”. She didn’t really give a reason, but she was pissy about it. She wouldn’t “allow me” between brackets, right?

And then when I left home, age 15, the first thing I did was I went to the hairdresser, and I told them because I wasn’t sure how to do it, right? So I went to a hairdresser and I said, this is what I want. This is what I want to do. I want to put soap in my hair. I want to put it up. But the way my coupe is now, my hair coupe is now, that’s not going to work.

And I go to my mom. I visit my mom. You know what she said: “ah, that looks nice.”

I’m like, you motherfucker. You motherfucker. You told me I couldn’t, I shouldn’t, and this and that. For no real reason, like it wasn’t that she was against punk or anything. She just didn’t give a reason and that pissed me off even more.

And this is what I’m trying to tell you. You gotta do you. You gotta be you. Even if it is hard, or maybe especially when it’s hard.
But only when you are comfortable with it –for yourself-. And I -know- you are comfortable with it for yourself. And that is the only reason to do or not do things, right?”

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as a friend replied: I have tissues 🙂

anyways, I’m using this to open up about the fact that for about 2-3 years now, I’ve been incredibly emotionally overwhelmed at times.

And I’m looking into different ways to support myself in it, with it, maybe even through it, or beyond. Or not.

Talking about it helps, trying out CBD/CBG oil is being tested, looking into different kinds of modalities helps, like trauma work, Byron Katie, Dr. K, etc.

the first pic is only after using cpap (sunday night)

the second and 3rd is using cpap for 2-4 hours and cbd/g oil (last 2 nights)

u can almost see the apnea increasing in the morning as the oil is working less

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CBD & CBG

what came in the box

Huile Super Relax CBD & CBG Sensavea 1300mg (10ml)

1000mg (10%) of premium Broad Spectrum CBD. 300mg (3%) of CBG to better manage your emotions. Enriched with Verbena and Marjoram active ingredients. 100% French sector – Produced in a short circuit in Lorraine. Active from the first dose. Floral, sweet and slightly herbaceous taste. No flavors or additives. Without THC

This oil is a natural solution to start taking CBD and deal with the little worries of everyday life. Super relax CBD oil is a natural solution without side effects allowing everyone to start taking CBD with peace of mind. Enriched with verbena and marjoram, the super relax oil also contains 10% CBD and 3% CBG, making it an effective and balanced oil. CBD combined with CBG which would promote the management of emotions and balance. Great importance was attached to the taste of this gentle night CBD oil during its design. No flavorings or additives were used. Its floral, sweet and slightly herbaceous taste comes exclusively from the plant extracts contained in this CBD oil, namely marjoram and verbena.

Broad spectrum hemp extract including CBD 10%, CBG 3%, MCT oil, Marjoram extract, Verbena extract, 100% natural origins. No food allergens, gluten free

At least it’s got vervain in it 🙂
https://vampirediaries.fandom.com/wiki/Vervain

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Byron Katie Just Wants You to Be Happy

“Although she might never identify it as such, Byron Katie is espousing a form of meta-cognition, a way of thinking about thinking. Are your thoughts a true reflection of the reality around you, or do they come unbidden from your unconscious?

Byron Katie just wants you to be happy. She doesn’t know you, but she believes she can help you find your happiness, and countless of her fans and followers would agree. She also thinks that helping you find happiness goes a long way in solving the myriad problems in the world. She’s been on Oprah. Tony Robbins is a fan and incorporates her work into his own teachings. Her methods are remarkably simple; she only asks that you question your own thoughts and that you accept reality for what it really is. You will wonder why you never thought of it.

An unusual woman with an unusual name, Byron Katie is leading a revolution of the mind. Although she might never identify it as such, she is espousing a form of meta-cognition, a way of thinking about thinking. Are your thoughts a true reflection of the reality around you, or do they come unbidden from your unconscious? Can you trust what your own mind tells you? Byron Katie would say no. She would ask you to question each thought as it comes, to mull it over and put it to the test. And then she would ask you to take that further, to ponder the opposite of that thought, and whether that “turnaround,” in fact, might be a truer version of reality. This process she calls “The Work.”

The Work: I had the opportunity to see Byron Katie speak in person at the Omega Institute NYC Conference, and I have also been reading her book I Need Your Love — Is That True?. Both were eye-opening, I might even say life-changing, experiences for me. The Work is a series of four questions that you apply to each stressful, unhappy, or counterproductive thought that comes into your mind. Take, for example, the thought “I am such a pushover,” which you might have after being taken advantage of by someone you love or trust.

Is it true? This is only a simple yes or no question, either I am a pushover or I am not — in objective reality without adding my own filters and biases.

Can you absolutely know that it is true? This is also a yes or no question but requires more thinking. Who is to say what constitutes being “a pushover”? Perhaps being a pushover to one person is seeking or receiving just the right amount of guidance to another. If I cannot definitively say that it is true, then the answer is no.

How do you react — what happens — when you believe that thought? How does this thought make me feel and behave? If I worry that I am easily manipulated, I may beat myself up in my relationships and unnecessarily put walls up. I criticize myself. And I begin to resent the other person because I can’t put my guard down around them.

Who would you be without the thought? If that thought never existed, how would I feel and behave? If I never had to worry about being a pushover, I could live more freely. I wouldn’t put my guard up in my relationships, and I would allow myself to be vulnerable and who I really am. I would feel better about myself.

The Turnaround: Now comes the point where Byron Katie asks you to take the opposite of your thought and mull it over. One turnaround might be: “I am not at all a pushover.” Is this any truer than the original statement? Can I think of any examples in which this is true? Another turnaround might be that my spouse/partner/parent/coworker is the one who is a pushover. In this way, I could come to see that everyone can be manipulated at times, and that this is normal. I can see that I am not “such” a pushover at all, and that I am letting the fear of being controlled actually control me. I can begin to let these thoughts go and no longer criticize myself or others. And so the stress associated with the thought of being such a pushover would no longer exist.

What Bryon Katie is offering is a method of self-inquiry that allows us to free ourselves from the anger and negativity we feel when we accept our thoughts, unquestioned, as true. We cause much of our own suffering by believing what our minds tell us. If we can see that certain thoughts are the cause of our own unhappiness, we can begin to let go and be free of them. Questioning these thoughts, putting them to the test of The Work, is a form of enlightenment. If the unexamined life is not worth living, perhaps the unexamined thought is not worth thinking.

It certainly can’t hurt to try.” – By Stephan Spencer from https://www.huffpost.com/entry/happiness-tips_b_1739238

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Subject: Rave Cosmologist certifications

Hi,

recently I noticed my qualifications on the IHDS Professionals page (https://www.ihdschool.com/professionals) have changed, and so have many other people’s Rave Cosmology certifications changed.

Was this change ever mentioned in one of the IHDS newsletters and I just missed it?

In 2016 I became a Rave Cosmologist, and about 2 months later was told I also had become a Rave Cosmologist Teacher, with the clear understanding however this was like a Guide qualification. Able to share with people but this would not make them in any way certified.

Even back then I wondered why not introduce a Rave Cosmologist Guide certificate/qualification, it would make it so much easier/clearer

Now I see these 4 qualifications online:

1. Additional Qualifications: Rave Cosmologist
This is where everyone is in now

2. Teacher Qualifications: Rave Cosmologist
with only Darshana in it

3. Teacher Trainer Qualifications: Rave Cosmologist
with only Darshana in it

4. Trainer Qualifications: Rave Cosmologist
1 person it it, Tatiana Wolf

Is this not a good idea, to make this Rave Cosmology Guide certificate, instead? For those who were nr2 before, also?

And drop the nr1 qualification completely, maybe/perhaps, or only as we do with LYD, ABC and Cartography, to have been an acknowledged participant, with no IHDS registration

Anyways, thanks for reading/listening 🙂 👍

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Kind Regards

Baffo

https://www.ihdschool.com/courses/rave-cosmology-biversity &
https://www.ihdschool.com/education-curriculum/rave-cosmologist

Rave Cosmologist Certification
This course will be taught by an IHDS Certified Rave Cosmologist Trainer.
The complete Cosmologist Certification Program includes eight semesters of study.
The initial seven semesters may be taken in any order based on student interest.
Once you have met the prerequisites, you are then eligible to take the final and eighth semester for certification.
The final Certification Course is open to those that have completed all seven semesters with a Certified Cosmologist Trainer.
**Note: This course is open to the general public and to those interested in becoming a Certified Rave Cosmologist to offer this knowledge to the general public. You are not being certified to teach others to become Rave Cosmologists.**

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Hi Baffo,

Yeah, it seems the word teacher was really confusing everyone.

We only changed the names but not the prereqs.

Rave Cosmologists are certified to share the information with other people – not to teach the courses for others to become certified.

I will pass on your suggestion about the Guide.

Thank You,

Lynette Crisfield

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“Where in the chart do we see potential for being abused?”

It seems to me, reading the comments and the premise of the question, it kinda means, that abuse makes you the victim, period.

As people point towards the not-self of either you, or of the abuser. (which implicates wrong doing !!)

And then the shallowness of claiming the not-self is only in the openness. While also reciting this activation or that one, so which one is it?

Which (as so very often) completely ignores duality.

I’ve been abused in several ways and sometimes still meet it, mostly emotional/psychological, and yes I do like to point at my Design Nodes (36 and 6) but…

Duality !

This notion to be able to see it on a map, or on a tiny little permutation of an activation (it is because of my base 3 in tone 4 of color 3 in line 4 of gate so and so, or because I do NOT have this or that activation to protect me bla!), is mind boggling to me.

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in my ideal world it would be like we would just be subsidizing escorts

Agency is the sense of control that you feel in your life, your capacity to influence your own thoughts and behavior, and have faith in your ability to handle a wide range of tasks and situations. Your sense of agency helps you to be psychologically stable, yet flexible in the face of conflict or change.
And/or
In social science, agency is the capacity of individuals to have the power and resources to fulfill their potential. Social structure consists of those factors of influence (such as social class, religion, gender, ethnicity, ability, customs, etc.) that determine or limit agents and their decisions.

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“What if, instead of setting you free, Human design is actually holding you back?”

What if, instead of setting you free, Human design is actually holding you back? What if, instead of it becoming a road to your best self, it has become a cage?

We’ve all seen it…people so fixated on their chart, so bound by their “type,” that they miss out on all kinds of incredible opportunities, ignoring what they feel pulled towards, denying what they love. They let this “inner authority” given to them by another person who never even met them, dictate every decision, ignoring their intuition, ignoring critical thinking. They’re afraid to step outside the lines, to experiment, to grow beyond the labels. They live in illusion that they are free when they are actually imprisoned.

This isn’t about rejecting Human Design, it’s about leading your own life. It’s about taking the insights from your chart and using them wisely, not letting them define every aspect of who you are. It’s about remembering that you’re more than your type, profile and centers. You’re a complex individual with a unique journey, with unique experiences, why do you willingly accept being placed in this tiny box?

It can be really difficult. Human design can for a lot of people really be like a disease that takes over their entire being. They can’t communicate anymore, all they think about and talk about is Human design. Instead of freeing them, Human Design becomes their limitation. An addiction.

There is a nice, easy way of using it. When you use it as a tool, without letting it dictate your every move and every thought. Don’t let it convince you that you are unemotional, that you shouldn’t speak, shouldn’t ask, shouldn’t leave a situation you really want to leave, that you shouldn’t apply for your dream job. And when you have been following the ritual for years, the ritual becomes your comfort zone, and leaving it becomes the biggest fear.

You enter into HD after being sick of standards and boxes, only to find yourself in even more narrow ones. Every aspect of you suddenly needs to be controlled. You are not allowed to think. You are not allowed to feel bad, as you will instantly be called notself, shamed and insulted. It’s time to see and realize that you never left the world of standardisation. You got even deeper in.
💔

from https://www.facebook.com/lara.jozanovic

Me:

Human Design is not a thing that does anything, it has no such powers.
it (HD) can not hold me back, only me, or, my mind can

If I abuse the information, or use it differently than what HD is about, than this is on me, not on HD

HD is just a bunch of words, all combined makes up a framework of knowledge, which some seems to pan out, and some actually not so much.

But when implemented and used, there is an observable result.
when used differently, those results can also be observed, but can not possibly be the fault of HD

So it, can not possible be ‘holding you back’, or ‘be a cage’
Only I (ego/mind) can let ‘it’ dictate my every decision, pretending to use the rules of such a modality/framework/whatever else.

Only my mind can be this disease, can be how I communicate, get addicted or even limited. Not anything else outside of my mind does any of this.

And if my ego/mind is in on this, big time, then that is a good place to look for it and at it. And maybe the observation helps, maybe not.

The acknowledgment, the seeing, the realization, of us being so taken up/by something might help
but lets point at us ourselves, in the way we speak/communicate then as well. Cause to ‘accuse HD’ is quite besides the point.

Somehow the 12 steps come to mind: “To accept the things I cannot change;. Courage to change the things I can;. And wisdom to know the difference.”

My 2 cents: Love yourself for being an idiot… I mean… human 🙂
not a robot that is omniscient, omnipotent, and bla.

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